Self Improvement

Are You Benefiting From Conflict?

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Professionally and personally, we seem to be in a world these days where, more and more, we are exposed to tension and are driven into conflict. As an INTJ, I’m one to naturally avoid conflict even though as a Psychologist I do training for others in this area and know the value of things like […]

Self Improvement

Direct Your Mood: Control Your Focus

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“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light.  But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness! (Matthew 6:22-23) Are you dwelling on the […]

Self Improvement

Give Yourself the Gift of the Moment

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Isn’t examining creatures fascinating?  For example, the chameleon clade is noted for their adaptability, which they do through their superposed thick skin layers that have iridescent cells containing pigment which respond to changes in light. The chameleon’s ability to change color is what helps this species protect themselves and survive in their environment.  It appears that that there […]

Self Improvement

It’s Staring Back at You: Our Character Reverberates Throughout Our Life!

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“What we do in life echoes in eternity!” This declaration, made by the character General Maximus Decimus Meridius, is intensely depicted in the motion picture Gladiator (2000). I have watched this movie over and over and I am still intrigued. What fierce costumes, desperate acts of courage, and disturbed versus heroic characterizations of human beings. […]

Marriage

Re-engage with your Spouse!

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Re-engage with your Spouse! What happens when the couple gets “engaged,” gets married, gets on with life, and has a house plus 2.3 children???  Are they still “engaged”?  For many couples, this is when their “engagement”–their emotional engagement–gets strained.  It’s hard to stay emotionally connected while “doing life”! So, what’s an easy way to stay ”engaged” […]

Self Improvement

Consider Fine Tuning Your Character for the Greater Reward!

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I find myself home alone for the afternoon and into the evening. Ah, freedom. My time is not accounted for! I can do whatever I want. This is one of those moments in life when there are several paths to take. What shall I do? My options include doing something: healthy, productive, sensible, indulgent, daring, […]

Family Matters

Fairly Engaging with your Family Members during Those Strained Moments?

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Fairly Engaging with your Family Members during Those Strained Moments?   The interactions I have witnessed over the years in my counseling practice inspired me to come up with a list of the top 10 unfair fighting moves commonly made during conflict with family members. Peruse the sample of fair fighting rules below and notice […]

Self Improvement

Step Into a New Habit!

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Step Into a New Habit!   Are you looking to drop a bad habit and/or gain a new habit this year? I began my interest in learning how habits, good and bad, are developed while I was an undergraduate psychology student at Colorado State University. A pivotal moment in my thinking on this topic occurred […]